Become a wedding photographer for over than 10 years take me into deep relationship between me and my couple than there is one short sentence that I always heard following the session, “Do you want to marry me?”
I know that having a good relationship is ain’t easy even I came from a broken family that bring my mom become a single parent when I was 4 years old. My dad is a hard drunkard so on that moment he better to buy a bottle of his favourite label rather than take care his family. Generally I don’t have any good family memories during my childhood and that’s why I became a wedding photographer, I’m happy to see other people happy right in front of me.
In 2004 I choose to pick up my friend’s Nikon F10 and start shooting people face, sometimes they are smiling but I know sometimes they are crying too, and this is the fact about married, you could smile and laugh now but you also could crying so bad on the next few hours.
What you see below is our photo during pre wedding session, such a special session for asian couple (mostly) for having photo session couple of months before their big day. Just within 2 months before it, we got an inquiries from sweet Hong Kong couple who ask us to come to Maldives and capturing special session to them. We discuss everything so fast including make up, bridal till choosing the right resort that we gonna stay together.
If someday you gonna visit Maldives at the first time than I suggest you to consider Lux Maldives, go read my honest review on that link cause this resort hospitality is beyond expectation.
3 Things That You Should Know Before Saying Do You Want to Marry Me
As I said before married is ain’t easy but it definitely complete your life for sure, so if you planning for it than let me tell you something cool about it:
STICK TOGETHER on Every Situation
I’ve been married with my wife Nina since 2009 and we stick together on every situation that we had, till now you read my story we already have 3 amazing kids and 1 other baby boy that gonna born on the next few weeks….and yes we still keep shooting wedding. Working together with Nina used to deliver good mood due to my couple, they were not thinking we’re working but having fun with them and that’s why people know me as a husband-wife photographer team.
Stay together no matter where you are now is harder than saying “do you want to marry me”, trust me it’s so hard but that you should do no matter you laugh or cry. We’ve been in bankruptcy in 2013 and drop over than US$17,000 and it’s really hard to get something to eat at that time but sit and drink tea together with Nina is the only way that we could do.
Now is your turn, when you got a problem (you can bet on it!) than try to sit and discuss for what you guys face on even you don’t know what to do, cause I guarantee than your first conversation will begin within 5 minutes.
LESS EGO Will Be the Best Thing That You Could Had
Good communication will begin when we got less ego on our self, try to reduce your emotion as much as you can than you gonna have one good conversation come. I know so bad that try to say your first word after getting angry seems to be hard but try to do it in a best way cause this is the only solution for your problem.
Between me and Nina got tons and various problem every week, the hardest thing for our self is split between family and business problem. You gonna have your own problem too and reducing your ego will take you into peaceful situation and that’s how the discussion begin.
COMMUNICATIONS is Way Better Than Gold or Money
When you want to fix any kind of problem in your family than communication is the best thing that you can consider, even I could tell you that this gonna be way better than having tons of gold or money. During past 10 years working in wedding photography I got few couple who get divorce following their marriage and this hurt for me.
Running this business is not simply as shooting, print the album and get the my fee but the most important thing here is seeing my couple happy. So when you got problem with your soulmate than sit together and take a good communication and this is the only solution that you can consider.
Is It Easy to Say “Do You Want to Marry Me”?
Some people got their own story even you and your fiancee but trust me say this 6 words is ain’t easy as counting one..two..three!
No matter what you got on your pocket, it’s diamond ring, key of Ferrari California, or two business class of full service airline tickets than saying this word seems to challenging.
I Could tell you a secret between me and Nina, actually I never told her specifically for marry me back in 2009 but hell yeah we still belong to husband and wife till now. We know each other that the main goal of saying “Do You Want to Marry Me” is not simply as getting married but lets get in love each other till death do is apart.
Now go for it, it’s your turn!
Back to your fiancee and say that you love him/her so much and if you dare enough than propose to get married.
I’ve got one good story when shooting for special engagement in Maldives due to my couple, go check Denise and Joel Pre Wedding that I took in Angsana Velavaru, Maldives